Your Eulogy or Your Resume


I spent the past weekend in New York at a conference with my fellow classmates from the Institute for Integrative Nutrition. I was so energized and amazed to be in the presence of these amazing people that are working to live out their dream of making the world a healthier place.

Among the speakers were Joshua Rosenthal, the founder of IIN, Deepak Chopra, Walter Willet, and Arianna Huffington, just to name a few. They were all incredible and each brought a unique perspective to the weekend. 

I had never heard Arianna Huffington speak before, but I must say, she was absolutely amazing. With humor, compassion, and a large dose of down-to-Earth realism, she told it like it is!

One thing she said that really stuck with me was about our eulogies; what people would say about us when we die. She remarked that when people pass, their eulogy is not about the work that they did (their resume) it is about the kind of person they were. THIS HIT HOME! We spend so much time at work, climbing the corporate ladder, working to move up so we can get…you guessed it…more work, that we don’t get to enjoy our lives!

Now I realize that we all have to work. We need to make a living, we need to pay our bills, feed our families, and give something to society; but do we have to do all of this at the expense of our health and our relationships? I did, for a long time. I spent so much time building my career that I tore down my marriage. I spent so much time trying “keep up with the Joneses” that I was no longer keeping up with my friends and family. I was focusing on all the wrong things!

When I die, and obviously, that’s going to happen at some point. I don’t want people to go to my funeral and say, “Karen was the best damn HR Director I ever met,” or, “Karen spent more time in the office than anyone else!” I want people to say that I was caring, and loving, and nice, and funny, and compassionate. I want them to say that I always looked out for others, was never too busy to help out a friend, was a good listener, and I had a kind heart. 

But then I realized that my audio wasn’t matching my video, meaning, that I was saying this is what I wanted, but all my actions were saying something else.

I’m not suggesting that you shouldn’t work hard, I’m not saying that you shouldn’t have a career you are proud of, but I am urging you to think about what (if anything) you are giving up for your success. I recently read that the average amount of time parents spend in meaningful conversation with their kids is 3 1/2 minutes per week…PER WEEK!!!!! That’s about 30 seconds a day! Is the corner office really worth that?

What will people say about you in your eulogy? What do you WANT them to say? Here’s a novel idea; go get a piece of paper and write your eulogy. Seriously. Write down what you want someone to say about you and then, go out there and start living a life that reflects that. In other words, make sure your audio matches your video!

Take care of yourself, be nice to yourself, and be well. And until next time, veg in, don’t veg out!


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You Are Not a Tree

It’s almost the new year, and I know many of you are starting to put together your new year’s resolutions. Or as I call them, “the list of things that you say you are going to do, but never do!”

Change is scary, I know, I’ve made a lot of changes in my life over the years. Some were good, some, not so good. Some where vitally necessary to my well-being, others, I probably could have done without. But the bottom line is, change is inevitable. It’s going to happen whether you initiate it or not, and whether you’re on board or not.

Here’s the thing. If there is something in your life that you don’t like, CHANGE IT! For the love of God, YOU ARE NOT A TREE! You do not have to stay somewhere that you don’t want to be!

Hate your job? Get another one! Can’t get another one? At least work to make the one you have as good as it can be. And be grateful that you have a job; many are not that lucky!

In a bad relationship? Get out! Stop making excuses. Try fixing the relationship. Can’t fix it? Maybe it’s time to move on. Don’t be miserable and make your partner miserable. Everyone deserves to be happy…THAT INCLUDES YOU!

Your kids suck? Well, you can’t give them back, there is no SPCA for children. But why not sit and think about what the issues are. Talk to your kids. And take responsibility for your role in the issues. Turn off the TV, turn off the XBox, and have a meaningful conversation with your children.

Things don’t get better by chance, they get better by change!

Don’t like where you live? Move! YOU ARE NOT A TREE! Stop whining and complaining and DO SOMETHING!

People stay rooted to things that don’t work for them for lots of reasons. Sometimes it’s fear that keeps us stuck, sometimes, it’s pure laziness. And yes, I know that circumstances sometimes keep us from moving forward. “I’d love to quit my job, but I can’t afford to.” Yeah, I get that! And if that’s the case, then stay where you are, but stop bitching about it! Either make the decision to stay there and make it work, or make the decision to start looking for something more suitable.

So what are you going to do with all those new year’s resolutions? Are you going to have the same ones this year as you did last year? And the same ones next year as you had this year? Or are you finally going to say, “This is MY time! This time I am going to commit to the hard work it’s going to take to make significant changes in my life! This time, I am going to put myself first and make my life work for me!”

Become a change agent in your own life. Stop living by default and start living by design and please, remember this, YOU ARE NOT A TREE!

Write that down! Put a post it note on your dashboard, hang it on your bathroom mirror, write it on a slip of paper and put it in your wallet, but please remember it! If you are not happy where you are, with who you are with, and with what you have, make a change!

I plan on making a lot of changes this year! Come with me and make this your BEST YEAR YET!

And until next time, veg in, don’t veg out!

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You Are Going to Die

Too harsh? Here’s the reality of it, we are all going to die. Time is the great equalizer. It doesn’t matter if you are rich or poor, famous or infamous, if you’re a stay at home mom, a corporate executive, a kid in high school, we all get the same 24 hours in a day…it’s how we choose to spend our time that’s important.

“If only I had more time…” to do what? We have the same amount of time as Einstein, Beethoven, DaVinci, Oprah, and the Pope! So, what are you doing with your 24 hours a day?

Though we all get the same number of hours in a day, we don’t all get the same number of days. That’s why it’s so important to make the days count. Now, I’m a realist, I get the old adage that “no one dies wishing they had spent more time in the office”, blah, blah, blah crap, but I also know that I need to earn a living, and sometimes, my job requires a lot of extra time that could be spent doing something else. I get that not everyone has the luxury of quitting their job and running off to live in the mountains and write the next great American novel. I get that, I truly do. But what I am suggesting  is that while you’re doing the things that you need to do, that you also pay attention to your life.

Think about the amount of time you spend each day doing things. Eating, sleeping, working, playing. I bet there’s a lot less of that last one for most of us! When you think about your life, think of the moments that have really inspired you or captured you in some way. Now, try to recreate those moments as often as you can.

Maybe you can’t afford to take an extravagant vacation to Hawaii, but can you afford to go to the park and spend some time looking up at the trees? Maybe you can’t afford to throw yourself a 30th birthday bash every year, but can you have a few of your closest friends over to celebrate when you came into the world? Here’s a news flash…the lives and memories we create have a lot less to do with the where, how, and how much, and a lot more to do with the who, why, and how we feel.

I remember many years ago when I was in high school many years ago…I’m old…it was Christmas Eve. My high school sweetheart and I were broke. Too broke to buy presents for each other, too broke to go out to eat. He had $6 in his pocket and he used it to put some gas in his car. He drove me to a house in the next neighborhood that went all out on the decorations. The house was so lit up that I thought you could see it from space. We stood there in the cold for half an hour just staring at the lights, holding hands, and talking about what we hoped the next year would bring.

I still remember that day like it was yesterday, and the moment didn’t cost a dime! Sometimes I think, “why don’t you make more of those moments for yourself, time is ticking away!”

You are going to die. But before you do, you’re going to be given a life…LIVE IT! Do things for others, do things for yourself, be grateful for what you have, work for what you don’t have but need, stop taking everything so seriously, put down the electronics and talk to your kids, stop trying to “keep up with the Joneses..no one knows who the damn Joneses are anyway!”

And above all, be good to yourself, and until next time, veg in, don’t veg out!


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