Do you want to be happier? Stupid question? I’m guessing that right about now you’re rolling your eyes at me. OF COURSE YOU WANT TO BE HAPPIER! That’s like asking someone if they want more money…you’re rolling your eyes at me again; aren’t you?
If you want to be happier, here are three things that you must give up TODAY! Trust me on this.
1. Stop comparing yourself to others. Do you get a little nauseous when you look at your friend’s Facebook posts about their fabulous vacations, perfect kids, and adoring spouse that always cleans the kitchen? If you find yourself feeling jealous of your friends nearly perfect lives, keep this in mind, no one’s life is perfect and you are only seeing what your friends want you to see. You have no idea what’s really going on in someone’s life. While you are coveting what you believe someone else has, someone else is coveting what they believe you have.
A sure fire way to be happy is to be grateful for what you already have in your life. Gratitude is a gateway to happiness. And trust me when I say this, there is ALWAYS something to be grateful for. No matter how crappy things may seem, make it habit to write down three things you are grateful for every day…EVERY DAY… even if the only thing you have to be grateful for is the fact that you woke up in the morning!
2. Stop holding a grudge. People are jerks. Yeah, I know, what a news flash! Here’s the thing, forgiving someone does not mean that you condone what they’ve done, it means that you are smart enough to let go and preserve your peace of mind. One of my favorite quotes says, “Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Powerful. Why let someone else dictate your happiness? If someone has done something to wrong you either address it or forget it…or address it and then forget it. Stop seething over it. You’re not hurting the other person, you’re only hurting yourself, your happiness, and your peace of mind.
3.Stop worrying about everything under the sun. This one is tough for most people; it was tough for me. I am by nature a worrywart. I worry about everything, at least I did, until the point where I literally started to worry myself sick. If you read my earlier post about sawing the sawdust you know that worrying is unproductive and unhealthy. When you are faced with an issue the only thing to do is to deal with it head on. Here’s how I do it…
Write down EXACTLY what the problem is, not what you perceive the problem to be, but the actual problem. Then, write down all the possible solutions to the problem. And then, let’s go one step further, write down all the possible consequences including; what’s the worst thing that can happen? Asking yourself that last question is key, “what is the worst thing that can happen?” It sounds counter intuitive to get all doomsday about it but once you know what you’re dealing with then you can pick the right course of action, make a plan, and then get to work. Worrying solves nothing, it only robs you of your happiness.
Happiness is a choice, it’s also something you have to actively engage in. If you want to be happy, then be happy!
Take care of yourself, be nice to yourself, and be well!
And until next time, veg in, don’t veg out!
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