The Audacity to Whine


Last week, for no real reason at all, I started to get really down on myself. I was so focused on what I didn’t have, what was going wrong, and all the things I wasn’t doing. Self-doubt didn’t just creep in, it came raining down on me like a punch to the throat. I texted a friend, my accountability partner, and whined for a while. He reminded me, in his not-so-gentle way, that there are people who are happy with a lot less than I have. It helped, but it didn’t stop me from wallowing.

Friday night came. It was a long week at work, the weather had been cold and snowy,and my to-do list was longer than my free time. I was meeting a colleague at Starbucks for a marketing meeting. I kept one eye on my watch, knowing that I had to run home in time for my weekly radio show. At the end of the meeting, I walked my colleague to the train. The streets were icy and slippery. I shuffled my way back towards work to get my car and go home. As I shuffled, slipped, and slid my way along, I bitched under my breath about the cold and the snow. I moaned about all the things I had to do; the bills I had to pay. In general, I whined about my life, and then, I stopped.

Laying on a steam grate was a homeless man covered in dirty blankets and a thick piece of plastic. It was maybe all of six degrees by this time of night and the wind was howling. In that moment I cursed myself and thought, “Who the hell are you to whine about anything in your life?” I was so ashamed of myself for being so selfish and ungrateful, and for being so unappreciative of the blessings in my life.

I was half a block from work, but instead of going back for my car, I turned the corner and shuffled the additional two blocks back to Starbucks. I bought a large hot chocolate and a bagel and shuffled my way back to the man. I gave him a nudge and when he unwrapped himself from his coverings, I handed him the items. “Take care of yourself,” I said.

If I could have cried, I would have, but it was so cold that I don’t think it was physically possible. In that moment I was so absolutely grateful for all the things in my life and I couldn’t wait to get home to my cozy, warm apartment, and to my loving three-legged rescue cat. I couldn’t wait to call into the radio show and use my knowledge and enthusiasm to inspire others. I was grateful for my family, my friends, my job, my home, the clothes on my back, my health, my abilities, my opportunities.

I was grateful for every ache and pain, because feeling them meant that I was alive! I was grateful for every interruption at work, because it meant that I had a job! I was grateful for every dollar I spent on my bills, because it meant that I had a home and a car and utilities to pay for!

What are you grateful for? Right here, right now, in this very moment…what are you grateful for?

I am not much for writing in a journal, but every night before I go to bed, I write down at least one thing that I am grateful for. And trust me, there is ALWAYS something to be grateful for. It’s an exercise that forces me to be mindful of what I have, and more importantly, THANKFUL for what I have.

Be thankful for what you have in your life. Focus your energy on enjoying what you currently have instead of obsessing about what you still want. Don’t take anything for granted; and be reminded, as I was this week, that someone out there is happy with much less than what you have.

Until next time, veg in, don’t veg out!


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Soup’s On!

It’s soup weather! At least it is here in Philadelphia. The cold weather makes me want to hibernate and eat lots of warm comfort food, but I don’t want to ruin my healthy eating plan, so I turn to soups that are loaded with healthy ingredients like veggies and beans. Here’s one of my favorites to warm you up on those cold winter days!

Enjoy! And until next time…veg in, don’t veg out!


Black Bean Soup

2 TBSP extra virgin olive oil

2 ribs of celery, diced

2 carrots, diced

1 small purple onion, diced

1 red pepper, diced

1 green pepper, diced

2 cloves of garlic, passed through a garlic press

1 tsp dried cumin

1 tsp dried oregano

1 tsp dried basil

1 tsp chili powder

6 cups vegetable broth

2 15 ounce cans of black beans

1 15 ounce can of diced tomatoes

1 can of corn

Salt and pepper to taste

1. In a large soup pot heat olive oil, add celery, carrot, onion, and peppers. Saute until onion becomes translucent, about 8 minutes. Add garlic and spices and cook for another 2 minutes.

2. Add vegetable broth, beans, and tomatoes. Bring to a boil and then reduce heat. Cover and simmer for 15 minutes. Add corn and simmer for an additional 5 minutes. Season with salt and pepper.

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My Life is Like the Movie “Goodfellas!”


My life is like the movie “Goodfellas.”

Anyone remember that movie? I love that movie!

So there’s the scene that takes place on the day that Henry Hill gets pinched. He has all this running around to do. He has to run to a friend’s to trade in some guns, go home and start the meatballs for his brother, go see his girlfriend, get someone to the airport, go home and start the gravy, prep a bunch of drugs for a drug run…

My life is like Henry Hill’s…minus the drug run…and okay, the meatballs!

I am scheduled to within an inch of my life every day. I look at my watch obsessively, I would die if I lost my calendar, I’m paranoid about not being somewhere I need to be. My day started at 6:00 this morning and came to an abrupt end at 2 pm., when I fell asleep on the couch…SICK!

Yes, the health coach got sick. It happens to the best of us. I believe getting sick was nature’s way of doing what I can’t do for myself…forcing me to rest! I had a laundry list of things to do today (including laundry) and none of it got done.

My training run didn’t get done, I didn’t work on my book, I missed my meeting with my accountability partner, I didn’t make the pasta I was going to make for the week, and I didn’t do the bookkeeping I planned to do. I did however make my oatmeal and banana cookies….HEY…A girl’s got priorities!

What’s the message here? Don’t be a Henry Hill! Or a Karen Kennedy! SLOW DOWN! If you don’t, eventually, your body will force you to anyway. Make sure you take some time, even just 10 minutes a day, to slow down and relax. It’s okay not to fill up every hour, every minute, every second of the day. Slow down, relax, and breathe!

And until next time, veg in…don’t veg out!


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New Year, New You

It’s January 4th, how are you doing with those New Year’s resolutions? Why do people feel like they have to do everything all at once? You have 365 days in a year, take your time, focus your energy on one thing at a time. People get so overwhelmed that they end up falling off the wagon. This is why you can’t find a parking spot at the gym in January, but by March, there are tumbleweeds blowing by all the empty treadmills. 

Relax, slow down, and PRIORITIZE! What is your most pressing goal of the new year? If it’s losing weight, than start focusing on that first. Get into a regular workout routine, pay attention to what you’re eating. Once you have that down, look at your next most pressing goal. Want to save money? Sit down with your budget, start tracking your spending. And then? Move on to your next goal, and your next goal, and your next goal.

And take some time to plan. Remember, a goal without a plan is just a wish. Most people spend more time planning a day off from work than they do planning their lives. Take some time to examine your goals and then put together an action plan to help you achieve them. It’s not enough to say what you want, you have to know how you’re going to get it!

Don’t know much about exercise and nutrition? Do some research, buy some books. Get a health coach…I know a great one by the way…HINT HINT!

Don’t know much about budgeting? Same deal. Anything you want to learn can be learned if you focus some energy on it.

And don’t wait for things to be perfect; they never will be! Start where you are, with what you have, and what you know. Then expand and keep moving forward.

I spent New Year’s Eve with my family. Not my biological family, but the family I choose and that accepted me in. Normally, when midnight arrives I say, “I hope it’s going to be a good year.” This year, when the ball dropped, my whole outlook on the year changed with the swap of one little four-letter word. Instead of saying, “I hope it will be a good year,” I said, “It WILL be a good year!” And because I said it, it will be so!

I wish all of you the very best in the new year!

And until next time, veg in, don’t veg out.


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