It’s almost the new year, and I know many of you are starting to put together your new year’s resolutions. Or as I call them, “the list of things that you say you are going to do, but never do!”
Change is scary, I know, I’ve made a lot of changes in my life over the years. Some were good, some, not so good. Some where vitally necessary to my well-being, others, I probably could have done without. But the bottom line is, change is inevitable. It’s going to happen whether you initiate it or not, and whether you’re on board or not.
Here’s the thing. If there is something in your life that you don’t like, CHANGE IT! For the love of God, YOU ARE NOT A TREE! You do not have to stay somewhere that you don’t want to be!
Hate your job? Get another one! Can’t get another one? At least work to make the one you have as good as it can be. And be grateful that you have a job; many are not that lucky!
In a bad relationship? Get out! Stop making excuses. Try fixing the relationship. Can’t fix it? Maybe it’s time to move on. Don’t be miserable and make your partner miserable. Everyone deserves to be happy…THAT INCLUDES YOU!
Your kids suck? Well, you can’t give them back, there is no SPCA for children. But why not sit and think about what the issues are. Talk to your kids. And take responsibility for your role in the issues. Turn off the TV, turn off the XBox, and have a meaningful conversation with your children.
Things don’t get better by chance, they get better by change!
Don’t like where you live? Move! YOU ARE NOT A TREE! Stop whining and complaining and DO SOMETHING!
People stay rooted to things that don’t work for them for lots of reasons. Sometimes it’s fear that keeps us stuck, sometimes, it’s pure laziness. And yes, I know that circumstances sometimes keep us from moving forward. “I’d love to quit my job, but I can’t afford to.” Yeah, I get that! And if that’s the case, then stay where you are, but stop bitching about it! Either make the decision to stay there and make it work, or make the decision to start looking for something more suitable.
So what are you going to do with all those new year’s resolutions? Are you going to have the same ones this year as you did last year? And the same ones next year as you had this year? Or are you finally going to say, “This is MY time! This time I am going to commit to the hard work it’s going to take to make significant changes in my life! This time, I am going to put myself first and make my life work for me!”
Become a change agent in your own life. Stop living by default and start living by design and please, remember this, YOU ARE NOT A TREE!
Write that down! Put a post it note on your dashboard, hang it on your bathroom mirror, write it on a slip of paper and put it in your wallet, but please remember it! If you are not happy where you are, with who you are with, and with what you have, make a change!
I plan on making a lot of changes this year! Come with me and make this your BEST YEAR YET!
And until next time, veg in, don’t veg out!
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